It happens more often than we’d like to admit, women are creatures of habit. All women have fallen for the tall, dark, and exceptionally sexy bad boy. Most of the time these stories do not have a happy ending. These are the guys that will cheat, leave, and continually break a woman’s heart time and time again. So what is it about women that draw them into the clutches of the scandalously handsome no good bad boy? Why is it that the good, wholesome guy rarely gets the girl? Below are some reasons as to why women fall for the wrong guys:
Look at the positives.
Although, the bad boy may carry some pretty debilitating characteristics—unfaithfulness, dishonesty, etc; the bad boy also carries some pretty irresistible qualities—attractiveness, charisma, and charm. Most bad boys have the ability to sweep women off of their feet—and most cases they don’t stop with one woman.
Media plays a part.Who hasn’t seen a movie lately where the misunderstood bad boy gets the lonely girl and they run off and live happily ever after? Of course, this is usually after the bad boy does something inexplicably horrific to the heroine and she ends up forgiving him. And let’s not forget the wholesome best friend, who is usually left behind in a heart broken heap. This is scenario is run again and again throughout books, movies, and television shows. The bad boy is being glorified in media; the modern day woman has no choice but to follow.
When it comes down to it, women follow their basic instincts. Call it what you’d like—gut feeling, survival of the fittest—but women will chose a mate based on their most basic animal instinct. At a subconscious level, women are always searching for a mate that will insure that they will survive and be a good fit for their future offspring. Many times, the bad boy’s attractive qualities will outweigh the bad ones.
One of the biggest and most unreported reasons behind a woman’s attraction to a bad boy may lie in herself. Women are afraid of what they don’t know. If a woman has dated a particular kind of man for a long period of time it will be hard for her change. If she is used to the abuse and dishonesty of the typical bad boy, then she will not know how to enter to a healthy relationship with a good man. She will always believe that a bad boy is what she deserves. She will not be able to break this circle, until she realizes that she, herself, is worth more.