What is the essence of you? The free online dictionary gives essence two definitions; “1. The intrinsic or indispensable properties that serve to characterize or identify something; 2. The most important ingredient; the crucial element.”
Everyone has an essence about them. Everything has an essence about it.
We identify people and things by their essence.
To imagine so, think of eating something you have never eaten, as you begin to describe it and taste the essence of it, you may be able to identify the essence of some of the ingredients, you may say that you can taste salt essence, the spicy essence or the tomato essence.
The daily thought today is essence because in taking out to pay attention to our true self, we will identify our essence.
The things we say and do can become our essence. Naturally, if we constantly mimic the doing of others, we may lose our own essence.
We forfeit our essence when we subscribe to the essence of others. How so? Well, for example when we dye our hair a certain color, we forfeit our essence and define the new color as beautiful as we wear it.
As we wear the new color, we, in essence of that new color, tell others who look at us that the color is what we feel is beautiful. While this is not good or bad, in examination, it seems that as all things, too much of anything spills over into the opposite of what tis’ meant to be.
All of us, to some degree, some more extreme than others, are awaiting approval from others in some way or another. If one should believe otherwise, that they are not waiting on approval from another then why purchase rims for a car? Why not wear a certain hair style or cut? Why change your outfit or determine what to wear to an outing etc.?
Many seek approval in some ways but not in others. As an example, one may keep a dirty home but a very neat and clean car. One may accept the opinion of family but not the opinion of friends.
One may see beauty only in superficial but not in natural. Even more interesting, one may choose the natural essence of what some superficially promote as beauty.
The last sentence written that precedes this sentence is very relevant to the essence of being.
Sacramento resident whose initials are N.R. claimed that he fell in love with his high school girlfriend in high school when they were both high school seniors. N.R. claimed that his girlfriend’s mother would not allow her to wear weaves but when they graduated, they got an apartment together here in Sacramento and his girlfriend came home one day with a weave down her back.
N.R. claimed that he did feel his girlfriend looked beautiful, gorgeous in fact but that he never saw her hair again after that day.
N.R. claimed that because he was in love with the girl who wore her hair the way his girlfriend was now wearing hers, he started to be attracted to other women who looked that way.
N.R. says that his relationship ended when he began dating a girl of another race who had hair that was naturally like his girlfriend’s weave.
N.R. says that before his now ex-girlfriend started wearing weaves, he would caress her head and scalp during love making but she didn’t really want him to touch her hair or it was always tied up after she started wearing weaves.
Most importantly, N.R. blames his ex-girlfriends wearing of weaves on his cheating. N.R. shared that he could tell that his girlfriend must have assumed that women with hair like the weave she wore, were more beautiful than her.
N.R. claims that he too began to believe in his girlfriend’s idea of beauty where before, he thought that she was the most beautiful girl he had ever seen.
N.R.’s girlfriend promoted beauty of others but not her own. It can be said that she “lobbied” for their beauty by neglecting her own.
Are we putting others on display as more beautiful and if so, how many of us would rather have the synthetic or off brand rather than the real thing of anything.
If we constantly promote a “brand” rather than the “brand” we own, others will actually purchase the “brand” we promote.
Metaphorically, if we promote McDonald’s but work for Subway, many customers might take our advice and eat at McDonald’s because if we work at Subway but encourage customers to go to the McDonald’s next door by wearing a McDonald’s t-shirt or some other similar trademark, some, maybe even most of the customers would choose McDonald’s as we non-verbally suggest.
Our essence is as the free online dictionary describes as, “the most important ingredient.”
Do we constantly promote the essence of others? In promoting the essence of others, what does that do for our own essence?
Do we promote the essence of Black beauty? How?
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