Research has shown that one out of every 12 parents favor one child over their siblings.
Are you that one parent?
It also showed that kids who thought they were less favored were more prone to depression in adulthood.
Do you feel your siblings were favored over you growing up? Do you now have depression?
Effects of Favoritism
Research has shown that adult children who felt less favored as a child were more prone to mental health issues, such as depression in later years. These children perceived (real or imagined) that they were less favored by their mother’s parenting preference while growing up.
Furthermore and surprisingly, the ‘favored’ child also exhibited the negative effects of favoritism. The favored children harbored the guilt feelings from the favoritism. They also showed more stress in the relationships with the unfavored children.
The lingering emotional damage of favoritism affects both the favored child and the unfavored child.
It should be noted that treating each child equal while parenting may not always appear fair to the children. It is impossible to treat each child equal as it may interfere with their unique needs. For example, a bedtime for an older child may be later than it is for the younger child. While the younger child may accuse the parent(s) of being ‘unfair,’ this parenting style of discipline is acceptable and rational which falls within the concept of ‘according to the personal needs’ of each individual child.
Children are all different and each one has a different inborn personality. One child may need more attention than another while the other child is content with less attention. It is not advised to hold back giving attention to the child who needs it more to be fair to the other children.
Finally, some children may appear to be ‘trouble-makers’ which can make it hard to create an emotional bond with them. But just like adult individuals, each child is unique and needs affection, even the trouble-makers.
Remember, every child is deserving of fair and just treatment according to their needs.
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