Everyone has done it, right? At the end of a first date, many have thought, “Wow, I really messed this one up”. If one finds himself or herself constantly asking this question, try to avoid common habits that could derail the first date before it even happens.
Do not monopolize the conversation. Talking too much is a major turnoff when one is trying to get to know someone. But it is an easy trap to fall into. There might be many reasons why someone would monopolize a conversation – over selling oneself, discussing one’s insecurities, complaining in general or the forced conversation to avoid the dreaded nervousness. Whatever the reason that tempts one to monopolize the conversation, resist it. Instead of talking too much, try to focus on the moment. Ask questions, try to get to know him or her, and do not mention everything – save some for later.
Do not ignore cues. A successful first date depends on one’s ability to read social cues. This means that one’s top priority is to watch carefully for signals sent consciously or unconsciously by a date. Verbal cues and nonverbal signals could direct the date from how much to talk to whether to go in for a kiss at the end of the date. Just be self-aware and aware of “your” date.
Do not over share. Ever heard of the saying “save some for later”? Save it for later. Vulnerability and openness are the keys to deepening a connection between two people. On a first date, sharing too much information is a major turnoff. Never discuss past romantic relationships. This is the quickest way to tank a first date. Sharing information is perfectly fine on a first date. Just pay attention to a date’s cues to determine whether over sharing is a receptive conversation. If it is not, remember a little mystery is not a bad thing.
Do not over sell. One of the biggest temptations one will face is trying to be something he or she is not. Do not try to impress someone especially by bragging. This will never win anyone over. Besides if one is not honest from the beginning, the truth will eventually come out. Do not get caught up in making claims that cannot be backed up. Instead, try to be authentic. Do not try to over exaggerate. Let the real “you” come out and things will work out if it is meant to be.